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Monday, August 16, 2010

Paging Dr. Sternin... Dr. Lilith Sternin

I was born in the early eighties, so while my parents watched Cheers, many of the jokes flew over my head. Later, I started watching Frasier and still do. One of the characters that's always made fun of is Frasier's ex-wife, Lilith. She's almost always portrayed as a frosty and strict woman.

At times I feel a little bit like Lilith. On the outside looking in. I'm quite shy and I feel my shyness comes across as though I'm a bitch uninterested or aloof.

I've recently met a great number of women and I feel like Lilith in that they all have children and so a common bond. They get together and walk around pushing strollers, have play dates et al. We don't have children, we have a hairball. Try talking about when your dog was a puppy to a bunch of women with babies on their hips...it doesn't go over that well.


Oh well, tomorrow is another day and I'll continue on to overcome my shyness and be less like Lilith.

Complaint-O-Meter: On day 5. I almost slipped earlier today, but Mike gave me a look and I caught myself in mid-sentence, so I continued on and provided a positive :)


  1. Funny... while I know some people that have kids, none of my closer friends do. There's definitely a common bond thing going there - not that I think it's done as any kind of excluding way on purpose. It just seems to me that your entire outlook shifts once you do have children and in a way that isn't as compatible with my own.

    I used to be super-shy too - and now having been on both sides of the fence could see how my shyness could come across as aloofness or disinterest. That impression will only last until first contact though - once you start talking to someone it's easier to pick up on the fact that they're a little shy so you begin to see it that way.

    Day 6!

  2. I clicked on of the "You might also like:" links at the bottom of your most recent post and it brought me to this one. I can tell you I know how you feel! I feel like Lilith in the Navy Wife world. They are almost all pregnant or have kids or they all had jobs when I didn't (I don't have kids, and don't want the right now but at least I found a job!). When I moved to South Carolina I didn't know anyone and didn't know how I was going to make friends -- most of my friends I'd made in school or because of my horse. Gwen has been my friend catalyst! I want to get into some kind of dog group, maybe meet some other crazy dog owners! I was in 4-H as a kid and made tons of friends that way, now I just wish there was the adult equivalent of that somewhere...